Wednesday, January 15, 2014

Some insights from Jackie Blackford on doing it your way

lot of the subject matter we write about here is about chasing what you want. Figuring it out. As a nice change of pace, our good friend Jackie Blackford from Blackford Photography has been awesome enough to submit a post for us that I think reflects the fact that once you do start building a life on your own terms, its not just a walk in the old metaphorical park. Without further ado, here is an insightful view-point from Ms. Blackford

The all consuming selfish self against the rat race, the masses and a backdrop of predisposed, perfectly illustrated, perfect possible futures that it is now nestling in its mind By Jackie Blackford. 

It is very easy to rebel against the world. To seek a different life. To fight the stupid stream that forces you to get up and do stuff. You, who does not feel like doing anything everyone else is doing because you are more special than a mediocre life. In the moment your life becomes that, I urge you to drop everything and run away. 

Cradle yourself until you can only hear your own whispers in the dark, because no amount of motivation, inspiration or money can make you passionate enough about something, to drag your faint uninteresting heartbeat to the surface for a breath of reality. If in your mind, it is still only you against a backdrop of people, that holds no possibilities for you, who share no intelligence, alienating bad people that are all the same, then you suffer from a little self delusion. 

You see the merry thing about our simple minds are, that we actually enjoy doing stuff we have vision for. That we get rewarded for, but mostly that we are passionate about. When you are so excited for a personal achievement, that the work [journey] becomes as rewarding as the achievement, you sort of have this little life thing figured out. 

Being jaded and untouchable, being removed from the masses, in no way makes you better. Half a second spend getting to know people, is pretty much as easy as life can be, and loving silently and in peace (thank you OSHO) is the easiest way to take the blame off people for how terrible aspects of your existence can be, and place in neatly back in your lap. 

 You see people are only harmful if they effect you, if you are dependent on them, if you need approval, love, admiration, lodging, respect, income from them and they are too poor, selfish, douchy to give it to you all the time. If you are looking for these things, run to the hills… blah blah blah (now singing Run to the Hills from Iron Maiden in my head, thanks brain) 

 The thing is, RESPONSIBILITY. 

The moment that you take responsibility for your life, and stop being a victim, a whole lot of doors open for you. Once you realize that you are responsible for how you spend your days, what you do with your life and what you think of yourself, it’s a bloody party. Turn your tunnel vision of the here and now into a wide angle view of this split second you exist. 

In the end nothing you ever did matters. It doesn't even matter if you receive a Nobel prize for piece, or an Emmy for acting, or a handwritten birthday card from your toddler for being the best parent ever. But if you happened to achieve them whilst you were loving your life and doing what makes you cry with happiness, then buja!!! Geez right? 

Okay so how does one start this journey of drowning the un-pleasable, ungrateful self that will claim freedom at the back and loss of other justifying it with dismissal of the existence of others being as important the Self? 

1.There is no such thing as a perfect / great / happy world / life / journey. Suck it in, pucker up and stop being such a whiny ass. Of course you are going to have hard days / months / years. It is just life. You cannot control everything. Complain, drink a bottle of wine, move away, don’t move at all, whatever, just stop pretending that one can get it right. Everybody is as confused in their journey as you. 

 2.Be bloody thankful for good days / weeks / months / moments. Being thankful for what you have [life, thoughts, a will, beer, legs to run away] will change your perspective so much, that sooner than later you will find yourself happy and content even if you just accidentally killed snowball with the lawnmower, because at least you have a lawn, and snowball wasn't your cat. 

 3.Keeping moving forward. Keep doing what you love, even if only for a minute a day. Live, breath and inhale your passion!!! Things change as you do. Soon your life will be where you wanted it, just stop being a spoiled obsessed brat, and live slowly, breath deeply, take the disappointment with honor and keep trying. As you get stronger, it gets easier. 

 4. Rest more. Loaf more. Sleep more. And if you are… do it less. If you are not happy… THEN BLOODY WELL CHANGE THINGS 

 5.Just breath. Everything is going to be okay. You just missed another day being crazy. Love your life. You only have this one. Create stuff. Read stuff. Love stuff. 

Loads of love

Jax

Thank you Jackie for the insights. 

Be sure to check out her awesome work at:

http://jackieblackford.blogspot.com/

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